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Re: Books about positive thinking


Message written by

Craig
April 12, 2007 at 11:28:06:

In Reply to
Re: Books about positive thinking
posted by
Peace
April 12, 2007 at 10:06:33:

 
Hello Peace,

Yes, that's difficult. Emotions are funny little tangles that don't seem to want to straighten out so we can understand them well.

You're learning about yourself. That's what's important about what you're going through now. When you've finished this struggle, you'll know more about who you are and what your deeper, innermost self wants from life. That's the spiritual self.

However, growing and learning aren't automatic. You can get into a situation like this and your self is like a tiger in a cage, pacing back and forth, not able to run free through the lush landscape that is the universe. If you feel like you're just pacing back and forth over this issue, stop and open the cage door. Let yourself out.

You do that by turning your back on what you desire and expect for a while and allowing your real self to talk to you about what you really want for yourself. Go somewhere new, in the open or with a view or somewhere new to you where you can release yourself from where you are. Free yourself from your thoughts about this person and think, "What do I want for me out of life, 5 years, 10 years from now?" Spend time with that and don't let thoughts of this person intrude to drag you back into the cage. You'll be finding out what the real you wants.

When you feel comfortable and have a smile on your spirit about who you are, then stand outside of the cage in your mind and look at your feelings about this man. How do they fit with who you really are? Do you have to be around this man to be who you want to be in five years? Can you be around this man and not give up who you really are? What boundaries do you need to make to allow that to happen?

If you find yourself starting to pace in the cage of wondering how to be with this man under the old rules and expectations, stop, open the cage door, stand outside and let your real self talk to you. Then go back to deciding what you want to do.

After you've decided what you really want and what the boundaries are you need to set to have it that way, tell him. You are the master of your own life. You set the rules. If someone wants to live with those rules, they can stick around. If they don't, they'll leave and you can set up new relationships that fit who you are.

In the end, you'll be more the person who you really are, and that is your spiritual core that is eternal. It is the reason you're learning these lessons. You'll carry these through eternity. This man may be only a moment in your eternal lifetime.

Love and peace, Craig  



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